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Coping with Deployment

Supporting Children of Parental Deployment

Parental military deployment can be a very difficult adjustment for children, who may not be able to speak to that parent regularly, and may experience a great deal of stress and worry.

How does deployment affect children?

Young children dealing with parental deployment may experience feelings of abandonment or anger. Often these children do not know where to turn—some are told to be proud or to “be brave for Mommy,” which may contradict the complex sadness or anger they are currently feeling.

Research has shown that adverse childhood experiences, such as deployment, can significantly affect children’s learning, emotional and behavioral issues if unaddressed. Childhood trauma can change pathways in the brain that impact impulse control and hormonal responses, and the high stress associated with these events can have long-term effects on health issues like disease and depression. Parents, guardians, teachers and other caring adults can help children adjust and process these events in a healthy way.

How can you help?

The emotions of children experiencing a life-altering event may manifest themselves in different ways. Therefore, it is important to recognize that children of military families may respond with sadness, anger, guilt or another emotion when adjusting to a change.

Many adults may sense that a child in their care is suffering but feel that they lack the ability to get a child to open up and share their experiences. Peer-to-peer settings, like those offered by Rainbows for All Children, help children to communicate more naturally and support each other, sharing ideas and feelings using age-appropriate language and concepts. These peer groups also emphasize that others validate and support a child’s experience, providing a community in which children can process safely.

How does Rainbows provide support?

Those who want to support the children of military families can recognize the conflicting emotions that deployment kids may experience and provide children with tools to address the situation’s complexity. Children can engage with their feelings through play, discussion and art, and understand their experiences from their own developmental standpoint.

By joining the Rainbows community as a facilitator or a participant, you gain access to an effective and engaging curriculum, a community of peers for those experiencing a loss, and materials and training to help facilitators prepare. Sign up today, and begin your process as a facilitator with Rainbows for All Children.

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